Hardness

O my son! And when one day you feel hardness, then run your hand over the head of an orphan. And soon you will be astonished at how this wiping (of the head) wipes out the hardness from your heart—for it will disintegrate! - Umm Hakimah

Do not Disclose

O my Son! Do not disclose the faults of people or Allah will expose you in your own home. For Allah is the Concealer; He loves the one who conceals! And do not be unjust to anyone. And when your power invites you to transgression against people, then remember that indeed Allah is most powerful! - Umm Hakimah

Beware of Mocking

O my Son! Do not be happy and do not rejoice over someone else’s calamity. And beware of mocking anyone’s appearance. For man did not create himself. Through your mockery, you are in actuality mocking the craft of the One who innovated and created and fashioned!- Ume Hakimah

Do not complain

O my son! Do not complain and grumble. I want you to be an optimist—accepting of life. Flee from hopeless and pessimistic people. And beware of sitting with one who is superstitious!- Ume Hakimah